What do asking the neighbors to keep quiet so we can film and the last girl I asked out have in common?
What do “asking the neighbors to keep quiet so we can film” and “the last girl I asked out” have in common? You only talk to them awkward transitional moments when no one else is around?
Both of them should have said no. But they didn’t.
The neighbors said they would quiet down so we could film, but they didn’t.
And when I asked her if she’d like to go out, she said she would but she didn’t.
Lots of people try to avoid saying no because they want to be nice. But saying yes isn’t always nice and saying no isn’t necessarily mean. If the neighbors or my disaster date had said no, I could have made other plans, and not ended up wasting a lot of time. You see “no” would have been the nice thing to say.
Of course It’s hard to say no to somethings, but if you really don’t want to or you really shouldn’t, then you just need to say it. You’ll feel less guilt, there will be less drama and in the end you’ll both be better off.
So here’s are a few hints on how to make saying no just a little easier.
Come on… you can do it nnnn-oooo. Say it with me. Nnnn-oooo.
Just say it. Don’t launch into a bunch of excuses. If they want em they’ll ask. And excuses are like icing. One layer can smooth things over, but three or four layers, is just disgusting.
Dont make the mistake of giving a lame excuse like saying “sorry, I can’t”. If you are going to use an excuse use a real one. And it’s okay not to have one. Or to say “Sorry I’m not interested.” or “You’re ugly.”
Don’t be vague. Being vague makes it feel like its going to be easier to back out later on. But if, no when you do you’re going to disappoint them anyway. It’s actually more respectful to just say no upfront – at least then they have time to change plans or find someone else.
No is a magic word – like please but in reverse.
Come on you can do it. You can say it. You know you can.
In the end, If you say no, they might not love that you said it, but they will respect you for doing it. At least they know they can trust you.
Welcome to No-oga. Today we are going to find your center by saying no to everyone you know… you know.
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GameDroid98
THANK YOU!!! It's really annoying when people say yes than back out later. Good show. :)Pheonix_blu{207}
I really like this one. I think I'm going to print the url to this episode out onto little bussiness cards, and then give them to girls who flake on me when I ask them out. It gets really annoying making plans just to have them back out at the ... moreAngInAmerica
Thanks for doing a show about what we ought to "no." ...ok, yeah, I'm pathetic.Meandering
I thought I commented about this. Some people have real trouble saying no to people and they really should before you take on too much and then nothing gets done.Allan
PREACH IT!!!nick
no i will not leave a commentAnonymous GI
A little tip, when you use your hands to express the "N" and "O" you went from your left to right, like when you read. When people view this they see from right to left. Mirror your actions; it will seem akward for you but it will subconsiously flow better ... moreIan
You know how obnoxious you look when you post First? Congratulations! I thought it was ok, but not thumbs-up worthy.Matt
Second. Also, not watching was a good idea. Stumble-thumbs-down.trademark604
First! btw i didnt watch this.